Am I experiencing abuse?

Sometimes it is hard to know if what is happening is abuse. It does not always leave bruises. This is a private space to think things through, at your own pace.

How do you feel in your relationship?

Read each one and notice whether it feels true for you — sometimes, often, or most of the time.

• I feel nervous or scared about how they will react.
• I change what I do to avoid making them angry.
• I feel like I am walking on eggshells.
• I feel put down, blamed, or controlled.
• I am not allowed to see family, friends, or community when I want to.
• They check my phone, money, or where I go.
• I feel afraid of what they might do or say.

Other things that can be abuse

• Physical: hitting, pushing, or threatening to hurt you, the kids, or pets.
• Emotional: constant put-downs, shaming, or threats.
• Financial: controlling your money or Centrelink, running up debt in your name.
• Cultural & spiritual: stopping you connecting to family, community, or culture.
• Sexual: being pressured or forced into anything you do not want.
• Technology: tracking your phone or location, or sharing images without consent.